Use the History of Leadership to Lead Better Today

George Santayana said, “Those who do not learn history are doomed to repeat it.” Likewise, those who don’t learn from history can’t benefit from its greatest lessons.

Leadership theory has always been an attempt to understand what make a leader effective and distill and share those lessons with others. Leadership theory has evolved and continues to evolve over time.

The earliest leadership theories focused on traits and characteristics of leaders, such as intelligence, physical strength, and charisma. Later theories emphasized the behavior of leaders, including the contrast of task-oriented and people-oriented styles.

During the 20th century, researchers began to focus on the situational context of leadership leading to the development of contingency theories which suggest that different leadership styles are effective in different situations. This approach recognizes that there is no one-size-fits-all approach to leadership and that effective leaders must be able to adapt their leadership style to the specific circumstances they face.

One of the most influential leadership theories of the 20th century is Transformational Leadership theory, which emphasizes the importance of leaders inspiring and motivating their followers to achieve a shared vision or goal. This theory argues that effective leaders not only provide direction and guidance, but also act as role models and catalysts that inspire their followers to transcend their own self-interests for the greater good.

Another important leadership theory is Servant Leadership popularized by Robert Greenleaf in the seventies. It was controversial at a time when title, position and status were revered because it suggested that leaders should focus on serving the needs of their followers, rather than pursuing their own self-interests. This theory emphasizes the importance of leaders being humble, ethical, and compassionate, and places a strong emphasis on the leader’s role in developing and empowering their followers.

Which of those theories do you agree with? Disagree with? And why? This is a good conversation to have with your leadership team.

That’s because to lead well it helps to learn from the past what best applies to the present. Theories are best understood as a whole but can also be used as a buffet of ideas and techniques to blend into your leadership approach.

With the various theories about leadership, what can you do today to be an effective leader? Here are twelve ideas that have withstood the test of time:

1. Be adaptable: Recognize that different leadership styles are effective in different situations, and be willing to adapt your approach as needed. Different contexts and situation require different approaches. One size rarely fits all.

2. Be a role model: Lead by example and set high ethical and moral standards for yourself and your organization. People listen to words but believe behaviors. Personal leadership is the foundation for organizational leadership.

3. Be inspiring: Develop a clear and compelling vision for your organization and inspire your followers to work towards that vision. I define inspiration as motivation to the power of purpose. Pay and reward people well, but also help them find the meaning in their work.

4. Be a good listener:…

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The Road to Magnificent Living

The Road to Magnificent Living

Imagined life persecutes current life when big dreams devalue small practices. Dream it – achieve it, is a malicious lie until you act.

The road to magnificent living is paved with action, not imagination. Thinking ruins life when it leads to more thinking. Dreams matter when they guide action.

You become what you do.

Magnificent living is found in things you do, not things you imagine. Image of two curious kittens.Magnificent living is found in things you do, not things you imagine. Image of two curious kittens.

Ruinous goals:

Goals ruin life when they focus on results and forget daily practices. Few things are more destructive than a goal without action.

Satisfaction goes up based on behaviors, not imagined results. Don’t focus on things you want to do. Pay attention to the things you are doing.

Don’t confuse vision with goals. Vision is always out of reach. You strive to end world hunger, but don’t reach it. Goals define progress. When vision replaces actionable goals, you drag yourself to oblivion.

Magnificent living:

Life stings because you do things that make you miserable. The hardest decisions you make are stopping. How will you stop making yourself miserable? What are you doing today that reflects your imagined life?

Magnificent living is found in things you do, not things you imagine.

Image of glamorous gems.Image of glamorous gems.

Life is miserable because foolish dreams are nightmares that reveal themselves slowly. The life you want isn’t a constant vacation. It isn’t obstacle free. It isn’t leaping from one giggling moment to the next.

What comes to mind when you dream of the life you want? Beaches? First class seats in airplanes? Butlers?

The life you want is found in climbing, not resting. Rest is an enabler, not an end. Energy enables the climb. Rest restores energy.

Judge life not by dreams but actions. Vision for life isn’t about buildings, programs, and another zero on your bank account. Vision is loving people. Magnificent living is loving people today.

What can you do today that reflects magnificent living?

Still curious:

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3 Ways to Be a Bossy Boss

3 Ways to Be a Bossy Boss

I told my wife she loves it when I tell her what to do. She laughed and said, “YOU love it when I tell you what to do.” I replied, “Yes, I do.” She laughed and told me, “No, you don’t.” I told her, “Don’t be so bossy.”

The term coaching is a brag-point for leaders in today’s woke world. You hear things like, “I coached her to success,” or, “He needs coaching to deal with his blind spots.” Bossy bosses comfort themselves by avoiding the truth. They really mean, “I told them what to do.”

Bossy isn’t all bad.

Avoiding the truth is ruinous empathy.

Bossy isn't all bad. Image of a person holding a compass.Bossy isn't all bad. Image of a person holding a compass.

How to be bossy:

#1. Tell – don’t ask:

Don’t say, “Where do you think it is?” when new employees ask, “Where’s the restroom?” Telling people what to do – giving direction – is wonderful. Everything isn’t a conversation. Novices need instruction. Persistent poor performance needs correction.

Explain expectations. Blurry expectations produce repulsive results.

Talking isn't working when problems persist. Image of a puppy sitting in a dish.Talking isn't working when problems persist. Image of a puppy sitting in a dish.

#2. Ask – don’t vacillate:

Ask direct questions. Beating around the bush is a pocket of nails without a hammer.

  1. “I need you to build supportive relationships with your team. What would you see team members doing if you had supportive relationships with them? Be specific.”
  2. “What are some ways you can do that?” The words ‘better’ and ‘more’ are not acceptable responses. Listen for specific actions that aren’t currently practiced.
  3. “How have you built supportive relationships in the past? How might you bring those skills to this situation?”

#3. Support – don’t abandon:

Offer support after challenge. “This is the third time this issue has reared up. I need you to build supportive relationships with team members. How can I help?” Support could be direct. “I want you to take this course to improve your emotional intelligence.”

Confront people for their advantage. Kim Scott says when you challenge directly you must care personally.

When is it appropriate to be bossy?

What suggestions do you have for dealing with people directly?

Still curious:

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Resist Conformity – Don’t be a Hypnotized Chicken

Resist Conformity – Don’t be a Hypnotized Chicken

I woke this morning with a blurred recollection of my uncle teaching me how to hypnotize a chicken. I can’t tell if it was a dream or reality, but I know it’s about resisting conformity.

The more I think about it, the more it feels real. It doesn’t help that I re-read portions of, “Orbiting the Giant Hairball,” yesterday.

Conformity nullifies diversity. Image of Lego people standing in a row.Conformity nullifies diversity. Image of Lego people standing in a row.

Orbiting the giant hairball:

On page 51 of Hairball, Gordon MacKenzie recalls the story his father told him about hypnotizing chickens. You push a chicken’s beak to the ground and draw a line in the dirt out from the beak. Oh la la! The chicken stands motionless for about 30 minutes. This must be true. I confirmed on the Internet.  

The company line:

MacKenzie says when you join an organization they push your beak to the ground and hypnotize you with a line.

“This is our history. This is our philosophy. This is our…” Blah, blah, blah. If you aren’t careful you’ll lose yourself to the line.

If everyone is the same, diversity is meaningless.If everyone is the same, diversity is meaningless.

How to resist conformity:

The mesmerizing-line is company culture. It’s all the rage these days and it’s important, but resist conformity.

Alignment is life. Conformity is death.

Desire for approval and advancement drive you to conformity. Don’t turn into a Lego block that fills a hole in a wall. The only distinction in square Lego blocks is color and color is frivolous triviality when everyone is the same.

Conformity nullifies diversity.

Enjoy work or hate life. Image of a person facing the sunrise with open arms.Enjoy work or hate life. Image of a person facing the sunrise with open arms.

How to conform:

Company culture is essential to performance, just don’t allow culture to drain your unique contribution and personal joy. The simplest way to walk the tightrope between individuality and conformity is reflecting on joy. When work consistently drains joy you’ve lost yourself.

You’ve been hypnotized like a chicken when drudgery consistently outweighs joy.

What aspects of organization mission, vision, and values light you up?

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A Simple Strategy to Defeat Destructive Platitudes

A Simple Strategy to Defeat Destructive Platitudes

Destructive platitudes work at the beginning of the day and sting at the end. “Do what makes you happy,” is my favorite. Feel free to include two other winners. “Do what feels good,” and, “If it feels good do it.”

Eating Reese’s Peanut Butter Cups makes me happy until it makes me sick.

If I knew what made me happy, I’d do it. The trouble is I’m not smart enough to know what makes me happy. Compound the issue with deceptive emotions and I’m doomed.

“Things that feel good end in sadness and things that feel sad end in happiness,” is better than, “Do what feels good.”

Destructive platitudes work at the beginning of the day and sting at the end. Image of a foggy sunrise.Destructive platitudes work at the beginning of the day and sting at the end. Image of a foggy sunrise.

How to defeat destructive platitudes:

Do what feels good at the end of the day.

In the morning junk food feels good. In the evening a balanced diet feels good. Choose to feel good at the end of the day, not the beginning.

Destructive platitudes promise happiness and deliver sadness.

7 Things that feel good now and feel bad later:

  1. Sleeping in.
  2. Driving to the donut shop instead of the gym.
  3. Avoiding tough conversations with toxic employees.
  4. More butter.
  5. Yelling at the boss. Emotional outbursts feel good in the morning and embarrassing at the end of the day.
  6. Lying.
  7. An extra beer or three.

Doing the right thing feels good at the end of the day.

  1. Speak the truth with kindness. It might make you feel sick at first. Do it anyway.
  2. Work hard. Drifting insults your talent.
  3. Avoid procrastination. Action feels better than avoidance.
  4. Ask hard questions with openness. Vulnerability pays dividends.
  5. Practice humility. Arrogance feels good in the morning and stinks at the end of the day.

What destructive platitudes seduce leaders into destructive patterns?

How can leaders live with the end of the day in mind?

Still curious:

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5 Ways to Exploit the Circle of Life

5 Ways to Exploit the Circle of Life

The playfulness of life is seen in a boy feeding hay to cows.

The circle of life was petulant on the farm. Every spring the fields turned green. In summer we made hay. I fed the young cattle hay in winter. All winter the young cattle made manure that I wheelbarrowed out. I spread the manure to make the fields green in spring.

Manure is central in the circle of life.

Manure is central in the circle of life. Image of two young cows.Manure is central in the circle of life. Image of two young cows.

5 ways to exploit the circle of life:

#1. Embrace inevitability.

Where there’s life there’s manure.

You spend your time feeding people. What do they do? Make manure. Only a fool fights the inevitable. If it doesn’t stink now, it will.

#2. Recognize the power.

You are molded by the stinky parts of life. Sometimes you get small and brittle. Other times you’re softened.

Notice who you are becoming. Do you like the person who emerges from wrestling with crappy situations?

#3. Let yourself be humble.

The luster is gone from the circle of life when your boots are covered with cow manure. Practice humility.

It’s folly to fight arrogance. Humility is something only you can do to yourself. Be curious. Stay positive. Keep moving forward. Don’t linger in a pile of stink.

#4. Reflect on your value.

You bring value when you harness the stinky parts. Some complain. (You may do a little of that.) Some give up, but you keep going.

You face issues and challenges others ignore. Keep seeking solutions.

#5. Practice being present.

Tomorrow’s stink will show up whether you worry about it or not. Solve today’s challenges. Celebrate wins. Learn from failure.

Strengthen yourself today.

Your future depends on what you do with the stinky parts of life.

How do you profit from the stinky parts of life?

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The Cure for Fear – Leadership Freak

The Cure for Fear

The trouble with fear is sometimes it helps and sometimes it stabs you in the back. Helpful fear tells you to obey the speed limit because the cops are out on holidays. But I’m thinking about the backstabbing kind.

Bad fear tells you to stop, avoid, or run away. Fear tells you not to go to the doctor when you find a lump in your breast. Fear says, “You probably won’t get that promotion so don’t apply.” Backstabbing fear says, “Don’t try.”

The cure for fear is simple, but not easy. Image of a young lion.The cure for fear is simple, but not easy. Image of a young lion.

The voice that says you can’t:

Fear plays on vulnerability. It reminds you, “You’re small,” when you feel insecure. It brings up past embarrassments, “You don’t want that again.” It points to obstacles to mock what you really want.

Fear strangles hope and murders potential.

The cure for fear:

You don’t cure fear by thinking about it. Thinking about fear turns you into a fear factory. The more you think about it the more afraid you become.

The cure for fear is action. You must do what you are afraid to do. It’s simple, but not easy.

Act boldly in small ways. One fearful thought spins off another and another. But action leads to action. One small act of boldness enables the next. Do something embarrassingly small.

Question:

What’s the bravest thing you can do? (Small is perfect.)

How to act boldly in small ways:

  1. Make a list of everything you’re afraid to do. Do something fear tells you not to do.
  2. Keep your eye on the prize. Draw symbolic pictures of what you really want.
  3. Seek advice from a kind brave person.
  4. Hang a safety net. Line up a person to call if the worst happens. Fear loves isolation. Defeat fear with relationship.

The cure for fear is doing what you’re afraid to do. I told you it was simple.

What’s the cure for fear from where you sit?

Dig Deeper:

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The Advantage of Atychiphobia – the Fear of Failure

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7 Relationship Building Rules for Results-Driven Leaders

7 Relationship Building Rules for Results-Driven Leaders

Relationship building is the difference between getting stuff done and being a leader.

Results are the cake. Relationship building heats the oven.

Relationship building is the heart of success.

Community contributes to flourishing.

Results are the cake. Relationships building heats the oven. Image of a bunt cake.Results are the cake. Relationships building heats the oven. Image of a bunt cake.

7 relationship building rules:

Rule #1: Value relationships

Don’t feel less concern for results. Give more attention to relationship building.

Think results through relationships, not results or relationships. Teams that row together go further than people who row alone. Solidarity promotes performance.

High achievers build energizing relationships.

Rule #2: Move first

The person with power determines the rules of connection. When you pull away, others pull back. Don’t expect strong relationships when you’re isolated.

Rule #3: Lower the bridge

Vulnerability is the bridge of relationship building.

Stop pretending you have it together. In a turbulent world everyone is learning. Let people know your development goals. People want you to get better at leading.

Vulnerability is the bridge of relationship building. Image of a raised drawbride.Vulnerability is the bridge of relationship building. Image of a raised drawbride.

Rule #4: Practice liking

People are priceless. Find things to like about everyone on your team. Smile at people when they show up. Get past thinking, “Oh bother. What do you want?”

Make a list of three things you admire about everyone on your team.

Rule #5: Leverage joy

Don’t be the jack ass that uses ‘but’ after compliments. “You did great, but.” But is an eraser.

Let affirmations stand on their own two feet. Separate compliments from development. “You’re great at getting to root causes, but you could be better at blah blah blah.”

Joy replaces push with pull. People pull together where there’s joy.

Find joy in growth and achievement.

Rule #6: Maintain high standards:

Relationships that affirm mediocrity destroy results.

Rule #7: Develop a relationship building strategy

  1. Include people at all levels of your organization.
  2. Don’t give your best time to problem people.
  3. Give your best attention to people who are rising.

What rules for relationship building come to mind for you?

Which rule seems most relevant for you today?

Dig deeper:

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The Shocking Truth about Being Beautiful

The Shocking Truth about Being Beautiful

Everyone is beautiful just the way they are except greedy billionaires, self-serving politicians of the opposite party, and powerful old white men who think women should have babies, cook dinner, and stay out of the board room.

Being beautiful:

You aren’t beautiful just the way you are. The beauty of being human requires only existence. We all have it. Smart people and stupid, competent and incompetent, democrat and republican, skinny and fat, red, yellow, black, and white. The beauty of being human cannot be improved. But there’s a rigorous side to beauty.

Unrealized potential is beautiful in infants, not a 35-year-old. Image of a smiling toddler.Unrealized potential is beautiful in infants, not a 35-year-old. Image of a smiling toddler.

Achieving beauty:

You are beautiful and you have far to go. The beauty of growth and contribution are achievements that confront complacency.

You don’t control innate beauty. It doesn’t matter what you do or can do. But bringing your beauty to the world demands sweat.

Unrealized potential is beautiful in infants, not a 35-year-old. If your heart thumps and your brain cogitates, and your finger can wiggle just a little, you have something to contribute. Even when you require care from others, gratitude is your contribution to them. (And we all require contribution from others.)

Loving yourself:

Loving yourself isn’t loving everything about yourself. Indulgent self-love destroys us with apathy. When you love yourself, you do things that honor your beauty like growing and giving.

Love yourself enough to polish your potential and bring it to the world. The world needs you because you’re beautiful.

I’m not sure what to ask after this rant. I hope it’s encouraging in an upside-down way.

Added resource: Life’s Great Question by Tom Rath.

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7 Simple Practices that Enable being Present

7 Simple Practices that Enable being Present

Pennsylvania takes distracted driving darn serious. Title 75 section 3316 imposes a fine of $50.00 if you’re caught texting while driving.

The numbers on distracted driving are going down. Only 1.6 million crashes a year. Every year over 3,000 teenagers rest under the dirt in the U.S. because of phone use in cars.* Counting adults distracted driving kills eight people every day.

Being present saves lives.

What about distracted leading?

Thankfully, people don’t die when distracted leaders gawk at their phone during conversations. Distraction might kill in a warehouse or manufacturing plant, but people are pretty safe leaning against the wall or sitting behind a desk.

Being present honors the person in front of you. Image of an admiring dog.Being present honors the person in front of you. Image of an admiring dog.

Being present:

You are distracted when you don’t know what you did at the end of the day. Being present is paying attention.

How do you feel when your boss keeps glancing at their computer while you explain important concerns? Being present honors the person in front of you.

Give yourself scatter-brain time. You don’t have to be present while brushing your teeth. Although you’ll do a better job if you are.

Simple practices to be present:

  1. Notice things. What are people doing, saying? How do people feel? How do you feel?
  2. Relax. Most of the problems you’re solving today existed yesterday and the world survived.
  3. Admire people. Find things to admire about the person talking to you.
  4. Do one thing at a time.
  5. Embrace your limitations. People change themselves. You can’t change anyone.
  6. Show up curious. Ask questions. Take notes.
  7. Practice gratitude. You must notice to be grateful.

Bonus: Do what you’re doing.

Skill and experience are less relevant when you’re distracted.

Life is better when you show up.

What can leaders do to be less distracted?

Presence: 12 Signs You Aren’t Here

*Distracted Driving Statistics in 2023 | The Zebra

How Do You Live in the Present? (verywellmind.com)

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